No, you're just still scared to go that step further because of the rejection you are used to and don't want to feel anymore.
I know where you are coming from as far as, accepting she made the choice to cheat, but also knowing your transgressions in the M as well. I actually think that helps me put things in better perspective to 'accept' the A's. Yes, he made a horrible choice w/ horrible consequences, but I wasn't innocent in all of it either.
I know my H felt he was doing everything possible to make my life easier around the house, etc. and I just wasn't seeing it. I guess that's kind of like the 5 LL in a way. He finally just gave up & said scr*w it all, I'm done trying. I guess at first when I tried to make things better, he was like "too little, too late" but finally came around when he saw that I wasn't just going through the motions of trying to build our R/M back up. I don't know this for sure, but maybe that's why he decided to finally stay. I'd like to think it's because he truly still loved me all along, even though he said he didn't, and finally decided to allow himself to trust me again that I was sincere in making things better for us.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
