OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............Pt2

[andyv]

Husband,

I wouldn't give her the "wife profile". You need to give her space to work on her own emotions and to make her own decision in regards to your R.

I know how hard it is, because I am going through the same. But you really need to detach more, I don't think you have done this yet.

And for the GALing, you need to do it for yourself, and do things that you will enjoy. It may take time, but this is what you must do.

You have not given your W the opportunity to "miss what she may be losing", because regardless of your activities with your son, you have been there for her throughout your sitch, and she knows it.

Don't make the same mistakes as myself and many others, it will get harder for you if you do. She still apppears uncertain and "clouded" and with you being there, giving gifts and "wife profiles" will just work against you and validate her reasons to end the R.

She knows how much you love her, and how much you want to save the M. Now let her go and concentrate on yourself. Make yourself happy and get your confidence back. Like you said, nothing you have done to date has worked.

You have to lose "this battle" to eventually win "the war".