Move forward, not ON. ON implies without them. Fine, you're not physically with them all the time, but forward means you're working on you and when they decide to come along for the ride, more the better.
NM, just be ready for her NOT to come, if you take that job. Prepare for the worst while hoping for the best.
My thing is, no job is worth your family. But Jazz may have a point, maybe getting away will help you clear your head and get right so you can deal with her better. Tough call. I wouldn't go personally, but I'm not you
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I am thinking I am ready to move on without her. I am having serious issues with the way my son is acting. Not sure how to stop it, or make it easier for him. I just don't know.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I sent a letter to Donna re: dialoguing. If you give me your email I will send a copy to you. You might see that I went to your myspace blo, but couldn't get in.
Sorry all. Took a bit of a leave to spend some time with D and to try and clear my head. Sadly the water feels just as muddy...
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Why are the waters still muddy? Still trying to control the situation? Why torture yourself? You have ZERO control over your W. She is in charge of herself. You are in control of yourself, and you're letting her control you right now. STOP!
Take care of yourself, let her know you're there for her and the kids whatever they might need, and go FORWARD with your life as it is right now. Keep the door open for reconciliation, go to God a LOT in prayer, and become the man you're supposed to be. If W wants to come along for the ride, GREAT! If not, it's HER LOSS.
However, if you keep letting her control how you feel about yourself and your life, you'll be miserable. It's totally your choice.
Have a great day!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I am my own man. However, I am not happy with my best friend of 17yrs suddenly MIA in the most important aspects of my life.
The job thing still has my head muddy. I see pros and cons in both directions.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
So I'm starting to think my WAS is actually MLC as well. Radical change in behvaiors, mood swings, new "friends".
Maybe the distance thing might do us some good after all.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
