yes, this is what you know, but is that really true?? you know that you feel loved when your w is sexual with you but do you know that she is loving you when she has sex with you?? if you keep in mind that everybody has their own way of expressing "love" and "feelings of care" and all that mumbo, then perhaps you will be better able to put that focus elsewhere.
I too know sex as a means of expressing "love" so when h isn't giving it to me I take it as his not loving me etc...does me no good to think this way as it only serves to get me into trouble and our r into trouble. "sex" is not his way...and the more I learn to "know" that, the better able I am to "feel" loved by him when I can look over what it is that I "think" makes me feel loved and see how he shows love. is he showing me in his way? yes. am I hearing all the things I want to hear? no. am I getting all the physical attention I want? no, but I've decided that instead of resenting h for it and feeling down about it, I accept that it does not mean he doesn't love me, just means he's tired and not as ambitious as I when it comes to that.
