Hey guys. Thanks for visiting. Well, consensus says that I need to chill out. Honestly guys, it's not that bad. She's open to the discussions and I don't feel as though we have them all that often...you just hear about them because that's mostly what I post about.

Quoting Abby:
I hate to say it but this would probably be pretty high on my list right now too. I think her problem is she did that w/OM and is not ready yet. Dont worry too much about it.
A cruel reality, Abby, is that she was more sexually "active" with me during her A because I think it turned her on. Things have tapered off a bit.

Quoting hoping:
don't get mad at me, while I too miss the sex(10 months) is that really number 1?
Well, it's number 1 for a reason, Sue. Basically, sex is the ONLY thing I've gotten from my W for the last year and a half. She was totally closed off from me in pretty much all other ways. Therefore, I was minimally having my needs met this way...and have come to "rely" on it in some cases. I know that as some of my different needs are met (oh...like general affection, caring, tenderness, etc.), I'll be less focused on sex. This is what I tried to explain to my W...with very little success. So, really, it's a temporary #1. Does this make sense?

The rest of my weekend was much like any other family--time with the kids, chores, having people over for dinner, etc. It was nice having Thursday and Friday off. Nothing really new to report...just keeping it together. Yesterday I went out of my way to do those "acts of service" for my W. I replaced the vacuum cleaner bag, vacuumed the house, tidied up, washed dishes, cleaned the stove, and helped cook dinner. On Friday I fixed a couple of sinks and installed a new dimmer switch for the light in our dining room. I've been a busy jethro.

So, all in all, it was a good weekend...had some nice time with my W and the kids. Nothing earth shattering... My thoughts about her A are dimming a little. I don't obsess over it as much...still hurts often, however. It does show me that over time I'll gradually feel better. Problem is, the paranoia still exists about future A possibilities. I assume this will also dim...

jethro