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Then she got irritated with me because my #1 was sex.


I hate to say it but this would probably be pretty high on my list right now too. I think her problem is she did that w/OM and is not ready yet. Dont worry too much about it.

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At one point she even said, "Aren't you saying stuff that it says not to say in the book (After the Affair) because it doesn't help when having these conversations?" I stopped myself and just had to agree with her and move on. She was right.


Wow. She is learning better than you! Good for her. Instead of getting mad about it she is able to turn you around. That sounds great to me.

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She talked about OM a little, which was very wierd. She told me certain things like, his personality and beliefs are similar to mine. I had to stop that one because his beliefs ARE NOT similar to mine. I was not happy about hearing I'm similar to this scum, but she just said that she thought it was interesting that she was attracted to someone with a similar personality.


You know these SAMS will try to justify their behavior. She wants to think that she didnt make a huge mistake just a mistake. Dont let it get to you b/c the statement before that she contridicts herself by saying
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"OM is not half the man you are."


IMHO I think you need to slow down abit. Patience. You will get there but it will take time. I think that is why she is still crying for breathing space. Just tell yourself this is the beginning of the marthon; you have got to pace yourself. (((Jethro))) Abby