MJP, I'm sorry everything has turned out for you this way. I've been separated from my H for 8 months and was served with D papers a week ago.
I believe you are doing the right thing by not responding to her email. Let your lawyer take care of correspondence. I read if there has to be ugliness, let the lawyer do it.
The WAS is very self-absorbed and and it hypocritical. They are the ones that wanted to do these things without trying to work through the issues.
Now is the time to think about yourself. Take care. Get out and do something you enjoy.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon