Maybe he's being nice to you because you've changed the dance and this is not the same pursuing behavior that he has come to expect!!!! Maybe you should try doing this a little more often. Maybe being detached will start to feel good to you. Once you stop the crazy making (and this is not all your fault it's a reaction to what he's doing) your life will become more calm and peaceful. Oneday you might wake up and realize that it's his loss as well and not all yours.
Listen Sweetie, I'm not trying to make you feel badly about how you've handled this. I could write the book on what NOT to do. I do know how this feels. BND knows how this feels and we know it's an awful place to be, but you have to start making some choices that will benefit you and your children. What kind of life is it for them to have a Mom that is a total wreck? You can't be giving them 100%. Again, I know this!
Look, if he's going to leave, he's going to leave. There is not a darn thing you can do about it. Start living for you and not worrying what this very unhappy, selfish man thinks or does. He doesn't even know what he's doing from day to day, so how can you know?
Take care of yourself and most of all, start believing in yourself and your worth...
