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[sad2be]

Hi there- Sorry that you are here but glad, because you will find great advice and support here! I am so grateful to have found this site and the awesome people in it!

Please, please don't question your sanity! I started feeling that way and haven't since I've been here. Now that I've found out how to add quotes, here it goes. Thanks to my fellow DB's.

I was on the verge of being a WAW when I found this site. I have been repeatedly telling my DH that I was unhappy and he just didn’t want to hear it. Over two years of this. I asked for MC many times and he refused. So I emotionally divorced him since I could see no hope in the situation.

Your story could be mine. I detached from my DH about 2 years ago and it's been a very difficult time. I need time and space, but H has problems with that and its a constant battle. Does the word CLING-ON sound familiar. It's like my DH had to immediately over compensate with smothering! DH has backed off, but does have his days that I want to hit him and not stop !

Here's my advice as I was in your position 8 months ago when I asked for a D. Try counseling, because at this point, it can't hurt. I have found that DH has a clearer picture of what the he!l I was trying to tell him for 10+ years and that alone gives me satisfaction and validates my feelings! I picked the first MC and DH refused to go back, because H didn't like what the MC had to say. Second time around (just weeks later) we went with someone out of our town and she has worked out for both of us. She has said some of the same things as the 1st, but in a more professional and tender hearted way. The MC also points out DH faults which is nice for me- the angry, annoyed and frustrated W! Yes, she does point out mine as well, but I can live with that.

Anyway, that's my 2 cents worth, but seriously consider the counseling even if it's just for your benefit. Take care of you!