I am praying for you and call me if you need or want to talk, cry, scream or anything else. I am leaving work in about 30 min to take D7 to the Dr. so I will be avail on my phone the rest of the day. I mean it from the bottom of my heart, don't try to get through this day alone....and it will be good...keep that in your mind..
btw ... Jay sent me this last week to encourage me. I loved it and want to share it with you, too.
I want to share with you one of my favorite passages of Scripture when it come to difficult times (and I may have shared this before, but it bears repeating)..."It came to pass". Not "it came to stay" or "it came to last forever", but "it came to pass".
Whatever it is that is occurring in your life, it is God's will to do His glory and power in you and through you. He will always make a way.
Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, and that God has placed you on my heart.
UA, I think i can honestly say that you're in all of our thoughts right now.
I think you should go hit a spa or something myself.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Amy I wanted to tell you something ironic. When I got into the courtroom, I kept remembering what you said - that I needed to stand. I watched all these other divorces granted in under 10 minutes, almost all of them sitting at a table.
Because we didn't have the agreement in place, and I had to talk to his lawyer in the hall, and then we had to go back in - we didn't have a chance to sit at a table. We stood - two feet from the judge.
He asked me if I was seeking an attorney, etc. etc. and then H's L told him about the "agreement to an agreement" and he asked me if I agreed. I kind of shrugged my shoulders and said I know we can come to an agreement on the other items - I just don't want this divorce so I can't agree to that. Of course he told me gently LOL that it didn't matter and I said I knew that.......which was what sent me into tears.
So anyhow - I'm off again today - taking time, and actually sleeping a lot......
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
He asked me if I was seeking an attorney, etc. etc. and then H's L told him about the "agreement to an agreement" and he asked me if I agreed. I kind of shrugged my shoulders and said I know we can come to an agreement on the other items - I just don't want this divorce so I can't agree to that. Of course he told me gently LOL that it didn't matter and I said I knew that.......which was what sent me into tears.
Well, it does matter but unfortunately, it costs a LOT of money. You can fight the D til you're broke and beyond and make it last as long as you want. Just don't agree to anything. In my state, if there is no agreement, the D proceedings can go on for years! Go look up your state statutes and see if you can get court-ordered counseling to slow things down. I know that's available in a lot of states.
Otherwise, the L's will run you through the D ringer as fast as they possibly can. They just treat clients like cattle and move on to the next ones...
Good luck UA, I'm praying for you...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I'm glad you brought that up because I was wondering the same thing -- can you request that?
Yep, you can if your state offers it. Mine does. I haven't gone to that level yet, as I'm hoping my W will want to go with me to the counselor of OUR choosing, but that is in my back pocket along with a few other things if the situation progresses badly. It's not so far, but it is nice to know there are some options down the road if need be.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I'm not holding this up, I'm not going for bitter here. I am not going to be that way. Our state - you can divorce someone without their consent. They don't have to agree. The 60 days have past and it's rolling.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I'm glad you're sleeping today.