I think you could greatly benefit from the method of communication they teach at Retrouvaille. And I know you say that is out of the question. If you send me your email address, I will try to explain how to do it. I know it will be less effective without their entire program, but it is worth a try. I don't want to try to explain it here because I still want to encourage others to do the Retrouvaille weekend and not try a shortcut.