Good morning people,

I hope that you all are having a decent day.

I just got done reading all of the interesting posts over on Swashys thread. Some of them really make me think.......

Kman said, "there are things that unintentionally bring about the demise of an M, over time. But an affair, is a CONSCIOUS CHOICE. In addition, choosing to give up on the marriage is a CONSCIOUS CHOICE. She hasn't given you a say in these things, although certainly they've affected or involve you. This releases you from certain obligations my friend."

when I read that passage I found myself nodding in agreement, yeah, yeah.......

But it also got me thinking about what I know, what I think I know, and what I dont know.....

It has been over 2 months since my seperation now, I sometimes suspect that there may be an OM/OP
but what I know for fact is that in the 2 months I have no, not any,
solid information and proof that this person exists. I have not seen her with anyone. She has not said that there is anyone. My child has not said one thing to me to indicate there is an OP.
Not one person, friend, relative, enemy, aquantence, or stranger has told me one thing to indicate that there is an OP.

Does this mean that there is not an OP? Well no it doesn't. But in 2 months if there was I most likely would have some sort of indication. So this is probably a good thing?


Now also, along the same lines of thinking...... I have not recieved any solid information that she has completly given up on our marriage. Yes she has moved out. Yes she has stopped helping me pay the mortgage. Yes we have not talked about our marriage for quite some time. Yes she has stopped wearing her ring.

But also I have not heard from her or anyone else that she has visited a lawyer. I have not recieved any legal papers of any sort.

This is what I know.

I have no idea what she is thinking, or doing most of the time.

It is hard being here in limbo land, I want to spy to dig to try to figure out what is going on. To find out some sort of clarity to my situation. But I am doing the hardest thing I can, which is just to let it be and hope. Hope for the best, and do my best to work on myself. Relax and do what I can to enjoy the day...

Ok I have to get my butt in gear and go get my child.