No, I'm thinking that maybe he will suggest turning either the basement or the spare room into a bedroom for him--we both deserve a space to call our own, if sharing one is uncomfortable. I'd be ok with that.
It will be a relief to not have to think about some crappy apt somewhere, schlepping the kids back and forth--I really want to disrupt their lives as little as possible. And I want to continue the lifestyle that they have--we're not rich, but we're making the bills and not struggling, finally paying down the debt.
If H and I were always arguing or yelling, I would never even consider this option. But we don't--the only disagreements that got aired in many years are this whole mess! He bottled every other negative thought inside of him. That is something, even if we do the roommate thing, that we will have to work on. I am thinking hard about that being one of my boundaries. Compromise is not about giving in, it is about working out an agreement.
We have always seen practically eye-to-eye about the children; even agreed to that in our one joint MC session--they were the best part of our R as of late.
So, breathing today. Stayed in my PJs until 11:30, and the kids and I are justing hanging out.
I wish all of these trials had been handled a little bit at a time over our 21 years together, instead of all at once like this.
