Yeah, I'm still weighing it all up - on one hand, I don't want to be a 'weekend dad' or have to get by on whatever custody arrangements would be decided, but on the other hand, I also don't think I can stay in a marriage without sex.
Rock and a hard place, anyone?
You just summarized the biggest problem most of here face. Sometimes it's zero sex, sometimes it's X times a year but the same issue. Some have kids, some don't, some have no issues other than sex, some have sh*tty marriages already with this on top of it. I'd classify affairs as the latter case.
As you say, rock and a hard place, but for me zero sex would be a trigger to force a decision. Did she ever say exactly why this is so? For me, talking to my W about how she feels about sex lets me understand her POV and the reason behind the low frequency, and not get paranoid. If she said "I just am not turned on by you" it would be over.
