I'm really glad that you are heading in a good direction here.
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I think I do want to pursue whatever this may be with my new/old "friend". She's fun, smart, pretty and makes me feel good. Is it a re-bound? Maybe. Will it lead to anything...maybe, maybe not. But you know what...it makes me feel good right now and I think I deserve that at this point.
I'm glad you've found something that makes you feel good. You DO deserve that, absolutely. And like Ian says, the big goal here is to start out w/ great communication w/ her so that no one ends up hurt. Have fun, but always stay upfront w/ her and yourself about your feelings.
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I don't want to be angry with her and I hope she can let go of some of the anger she has for me. I hope we can be friends and coparent together.
I think this is a healthy attitude, to hope you can remove the anger from your Rs. But I just want to remind you that even though you have to coparent together and will do an AWESOME job, it isn't always possible to keep that 'friend' context in there. There has been a lot of pain and betrayal. The WASs I know are selfish and egocentric. They might not be deserving of a friendship and I don't want you to keep putting yourself out there for disappointment and hurt from her when you think of her as a friend and she thinks of you as someone who will pick up the slack w/ the kids or whatever. She has guilt now, but give her some time on her own with the debt paid off and her new life. I just want you to realize that it may not be possible to be friends without compromising yourself. There may be times when you have to be tough on her, or call out her actions regarding the kids and that is really difficult to do if you are trying to be friends. Just a reminder that your first responsibility is to your kiddos and any potential friendship might have to take a backseat to their well-being.
That said, doesn't mean you can't work the friendship thing out, especially if you are motivated. But she may not want to be friends either and that is ok. You WILL be fine, you WILL floursih. You're life is going to be great. Good luck w/ the friendship angle. I really hope you're one of the lucky ones that can work that out.
Feel like I'm rambling here so I'm off. But have a great day. You're attitude is really great. You seem happier than you have in a long time and that is something that makes me smile. Take care, S2H. It's your time to shine.
