Crushed but moving on

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Scott,
I just deleted a novel I wrote to you and I am starting over.

Not sure I agree with you. Her A was something that grew over time and was something she fought pretty hard.

Guess it is alright for an affair to occur as long as it grows over time and the person that commits adultury fights pretty hard to avoid it from happening....WTF SCOTT Come on now.....

over years that friendship grew into something else

She can explain that one to God.

But I do not think it is something she deliberately went out and did.

Never is but as you said she is a big girl and wheres big girl panties. She knows what is right and wrong. She needs to own up to it and stop with the damn excuses. They are like a$$holes everyone has one some are just bigger than others.

And I could have chosen to stop my behavior too.

And you did and "man'ed up' to your own mistakes as well as took the proper path to correct them. Did she? Come on now.

No as far as you go and the relationship with your XW.

Yes you love her we all love our X's or WAW's to a point. Yes you want a freindship with her. Yes you want to continue to improve that relatioship.

Guess what it has now become a buisness. She is your coworker and you are CO_PARENTING. Not a close friend not a best friend not your Wife. It is all buisness now. You are a great father and your kids will always look up to you for the fight that you put up to save the family and your marriage. But we can not win at everything....(UNLESS YOUR NAME IS BEN... ;)).

You have one several fights just lost the battle for you marriage. You won the most important fights and came out of it with your head held high with no regrets. You are a strong man Scott and you need to keep it that way.

I'll be around slapping people today,
Later,
Ben