Wow! Great work! That is really good. He's back and he can say nice things about you, and he even said ILY. These are very big things.
If you can, you should go to a Retrouvaille weekend as soon as possible, while the good will is still fresh. It is a marital retreat for people with marital problems. They teach you how to communicate your feelings in a non-threatening way. What can be accomplished in one weekend at Retrouvaille, cannot be duplicated elsewhere. See http://www.retrouvaille.org. for a schedule of weekends near you.
If all you can do is buy a book, get After the Affair by Janis Abrams-Springer. It's written to speak to both the cheating spouse and the non-cheating spouse and gives excellent insight into both sides.
