Crushed but moving on

[Kman]

Hey Scott-
Don't get me wrong - I am a firm believer in that (for most of us) it took both the WAS and the LBS to create a bad marriage - no argument there. So sure, if you were an angry person for many years, that was something you contributed to the demise of the M. But HER fault in that (in this particular instance) was not addressing it and making a stronger stand to you on correcting that behavior. How do you fix something if you don't realize it's broken? That's how most of us got here.

However, it was her CHOICE to go outside the marriage and go against her vows, promises, etc. as a means of escaping the problem. We're all adults and in control of our actions, that includes your W.

So I guess my point is, yes - you AND W had to work TOGETHER to create this M, as well as to allow it to get it where it is today. But after a certain point, she made certain CHOICES that fall on her and her alone. the A is one of those things, and I just don't believe there's anything that justifies it.

Kev