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[waw1978]

I spent the night at home last night to see D4. Of course DH wants to rehash this whole thing over and over. Seems like we are having the same convo repeatedly. Last night there is an ultimatum of sorts thrown in. He will not accept me coming and going at the house. He said its not fair to him. I agreed that its not the best either but neither of us wants to uproot D4 from her house why we sort this out. Basically he wants total separation or total immersion. He spoke with an IC for an hour yesterday and they told him I was in the midst of an early MLC due to my age and the "symptoms". We are still supposed to see the MC on Sat AM but DH has demanded that I make a decision before then about whether or not I can get over my anger and resentment. This is the whole reason I need space to begin with. He asked if I wanted to be a his wife and I told him that I didn't know. I need time to stop being angry with him. He was pushing for an answer and I told him if I was forced to decide that without having the time and space I needed then the answer was no, I didn't want to be his wife. Then he backtracked and said he didn't mean I needed to answer that right then but by Saturday when we meet with the MC.

Suggestions here? I am sure others have met with this sort of ultimatum. How did you compromise so things could get sorted out?