I think at this stage, it might be the best to detach, you have let her know that you are there, and leave it at that. GAL, and act as if. She seems like she really doesn't have a clue about what she wants, and you don't want to push her any further away. So basically just let her figure this out on her own, and focus on you for now.
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!