All I want is for W to love me for who I am and for what I am not. That is all.
Sorry, but that is just not going to work. You need to chage a lot of the dynamic between the two of you or things will just continue on "as is." All the attraction of a R is being sucked right out of your M. I know because I've been there, still am at times. It is hard, but you will need to figure out how to step up and confront your W on what is going on. If you wait too long, she will be a WAW. I know you are frustrated but so is she. There are plenty of incidences on this board of the S who stated they were the one's with the HD but their spouse ended up going off with someone else or just getting out of the M all together. Sounds like she is working towards that option. Avoiding the issues is a recipe for disaster. Talk to her. LFL
