Alimari, loving yourself takes practice. Watching you learning to respect and take care of yourself is helping me. The good detachment skills that we all need in order to cope with destructive partners are amazingly useful on every frontier. Your poor mom has been through the drunky wars herself.
History repeats. It is important to keep being our best selves rather than 'becoming our mothers'. yikes.
Lately, I am distressed to realize that healthy self love involves so much sweat!! That is comically true. You and your adventures in the gym have convinced me. You have learned to change your worried mood by getting physical. Best!!!
Our out of control husbands rely on us to stay calm and to keep the family ship floating. Our children, even adult ones, need us to. I read what you and others write and then I reconsider the bigger picture. Doing what is right and healthy is good for everyone.
