Well I am proud of me.. and no I am not tying to change him I just needed ( apparently, cause I did not start talking to him with this in mind*) to get this of my chest ,, last nite I was so uptight and for some reason this Morning when he called I let it all out. I VERY calmly said to him,,
H: I feel better I did not want to get up.
ME: Did you drink yesterday?
H: No, WHY?
ME: Well maybe that is why your body is happy you did not drink and it is trying to rest.
H: yeah, but I would like to have a drink....

we said a few other things to one another and then I stated...
"Honey I have not wanted to say anything and yet I have to say that this past few weeks/ month especially on the weekends have not been good , you have been acting like you are 18.
It is not good.
H: yeah I know, I havent done this in a long time.
ME: well it needs to stop, it is just not right it just seems so degrading and gross what you have been up to, and then you tell me there are "women " there too and that isnt right it makes me sick , it is not ok ,it is just wrong Plain and simple. You have been acting so LOW and I do not like it and I think it is wrong. It is just gross and there is no reason you need to be acting like this , do you understand?
H: I know honey you are right....
( and he wasnt even being rude, sarcastic or condescending, he agreed whole heartedly.
I said a little more but cant remember it.
He then said "ok honey well have a pen ready I am going to call you later w/ all the Invoice info.

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I feel like the elephant sitting on my chest went back home.
Awesome and he did not argue or get defensive. I got to state how I feel and wasnt even looking for validation, he always has a "reason" why what he does is OK, and not today. ?
~wow~
I feel better,, I will most likely never know who this &*^^( was but I hvae taken the High Road and I am going to keep Getting a LIFE and I will be ok. No better than ok, I will be strong and loving and free once and for all of the shackles I alone put on and wore daily of him. I can love him doesnt mean I have to love evrything else.... mood swings, etc, etc, etc.
thanks you all for your advice ,,,,
LOVE, Ali
;\) GOD BLESS...