H4WB
It's so hard. I have only been doing this for about 3 mos. My W OM lives out of state. It's her Old BF. He is also married. I have and am trying to go Simi dark also. I just wish there was a way we could fast forward to the end to see if going through all of this is worth it or we will lose out in the end anyway. Try to stick to your guns. I keep waffling also. When ya feel weak come here. Someone usually knocks ya along side your head and sets you straight again. If it were not for the people here I would have folded long ago

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Husband

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know