Questions for all the "Cheated"

[RedHeadWife]

Ok, I'm feeling better today. Had a self talk w/ myself last evening. Started thinking about the fact that, yes, I am hurting because of H's A's, him wanting a D, the things he said to me that hurt so badly, however, I wasn't innocent in all of this.

He had been hurting for a long time prior to all of this. I'm not excusing his A's in any way. That started long before I ever 'did' anything to 'help' him choose that path, however, my lack of closeness, intimacy, etc. w/ him over the years truly hurt him a lot.

I guess what I'm saying is I need to get over myself and realize I'm not the only 'victim' here. What I need to focus on are the positives. We're NOT getting a D, he's NOT cheating on me anymore and he does love & miss me and the boys.

Onward & upward I say. I won't be able to rebuild my M in any sort of positive fashion if I'm always dwelling on the negatives. I can't work on ME in any positive way if I'm constantly worried and having negative thoughts.

Today will be a good day