Quick question.

[RedHeadWife]

A.C., you hit a good point up there and, it's funny, because I kind of had a bad day yesterday and last evening I started thinking "Kel, you're NOT completely innocent in all of this either." Yes, I feel hurt that he cheated, wanted a D, said & did things that hurt terribly, but HE felt hurt all along too. HE was hurting for a long time w/ me being emotionally distant, etc. Now, did I have my 'reasons?' Yes, but I probably could have either worked through them or, EVEN BETTER, tried to communicate how I was feeling to him better and maybe he could have even helped me w/ my issues that led to the way I was feeling and my lack of wanting any sort of intimacy w/ him.

So, there it is. Yes, we've been 'wronged,' but they too were hurting and so it's kind of onward & upward.

I think what you have is ultimately an awesome M. Hopefully the lack of sex part will resolve, but if you look at all of the threads around here in some of the other forums, you will see that we truly are a few of the lucky ones. We've made it back from separation and have a 2nd chance to make our M's good ones. That's what I plan to do.

I think you do need to just maybe sit back and look at the positives going for you and your M and I think you will see that in the big picture, things have gotten better, a lot better, and that, like I said, maybe the lack of intimacy issue will resolve as well. Time, patience, my friend. Don't throw away something that is potentially good before it has ripened.