Sometimes I wonder how many WAS actually do have a real treatable disorder. A distant relative abandoned her two sons and a loving husband because her meds were way off. She could not handle the children while on these new meds. She regrets all the damage she did after her husband moved on. I am not saying that some magic pill can save a marriage but I wonder if the left spouse is the scapegoat when one parter suffers from deression, or another compulsion?
That is a good question, my wife is on meds. They are for depression and some other word I cannot pronounce much less spell. I believe that is part of our/her problem, I briefly made a comment about her talking to her doctor, was shut down real quick. That is one of my biggest fears, she will go ahead with D, then down the road go "OOOOOOOOPS".
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M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
That is a real posibility and we are on the roller coaster ride right along with them. My distant relative started dating abusive men much less cuter than her ex husband and had to move back in with her mother. She was so filled with regret and it was too late. It was a destructive downward spiral. finally, her meds were in better sync, but barely. I think my husband is starting to feel regret, according to his parents but he does not know how to get out of this hole he has dug. I joked there would be a room for rent available in my home this summer and he laughed. I wanted to hint he could still come back home. is that OK?
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
That is one of my biggest fears, she will go ahead with D, then down the road go "OOOOOOOOPS".
I'm so with you there brother.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
If you want him to come back home, then heck yes it is okay.
Part of me thinks that my wife may believe she has gone to far in this to even say anything and just let it go because of pride or something, I hope I am wrong, but she is one stubborn women, usually in a good way. It would suck if she let that stubborn part stop her from doing what her heart says.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Sorry, I just got back in town. Tell her she's messing with son's head and it's hurting him - he wants his family back together.
Originally Posted By: 789
Originally Posted By: JR2007
I mentioned it to my W at the meetings we've had, and you've seen how she's reacted. She doesn't want to do anything with the 3 of us, she doesn't want to get S4's hopes up, but she knows our family is better together than apart. that's what your W will see, and you'll get a chance to talk to her about it eventually.
Mentioned what, stress on son? I can see your wifes point of view in not wanting to get your sons hopes up doing things together, but that is exactly opposite of what my wife is doing. As for that, maybe I am just reading everything wrong and she is moving forward toward a family status again. Remember, I am male and if not told directly, I don't know what I am suppose to think.
Yes, I mentioned to her that S4 wanted his family back together and shared some things he had said. She thinks she's doing so well by not talking to him about this stuff, but he knows what's up and he doesn't like it. And she needed to know and it touched her (at least at the moment it did.) ----------------
There's not a whole lot you can do to get rid of the worry 100%, I don't know if you even want to. For me it keeps the situation real and reminds me of what I have to do to get myself ready. I don't dwell on it nearly as much as I did, and that's a good thing for my sanity.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
