Donna, Sorry for just now getting around to your thread. Listen to me for a second.
We have all been there in the exact spot you're in. We have all felt the pain. Heck I don't have a friend within a 100mile radius. I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU'RE AT.
It gets better. Each day you gain acceptance. The thing that worked for me is that I drew a line in the sand and said "enough." I have my good days, I have my bad. But my bad days are getting better because I'm accepting my mistakes. Embrace them, grow from them. It's hard not to get overwhelmed, but darlin' we've all been there...and I can promise you it does get better. I had to figure out how to love myself, never did it before until my sitch started. Start there. Love yourself for being a good mom, love yourself for being a good employee, find something and accept that positive for now.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."