OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............Pt2

[andyv]

Hi Husband,

Yes I am awake, just got back from dropping DD off at school.

Had a pretty good morning,

My W knocked on my bedroom door at around 6:30am to ask if I could drop DD off at school (W normally drops her off at before school care at 7am).

She told me that DD wanted me to drop her off this morning (last night). I said yes, no probs, and she said "Thank you Andy". As I have mentioned before numerous times, she only ever calls me Andy when we were happy together, early on in the sitch (as recent as 4 weeks ago) she was calling me Andrew, or when she refered to DD it would be "ask your dad" or " see with your father". Now it is Andy and "ask dad" etc.

I normally get DD ready at around 8:15am so I decided to sleep in a little. But at around 6:45am, I attended the little boys room, and on walking past W's bedroom I could see W (all dressed for work) snuggled up with DD, with the doona covering them both. I have not seen her do this post bomb. She used to do it all the time when we were a happy family.

Also last night when I got home from work at around 9:30pm, W was sitting in the family room alone, snuggled up in a blanket, watching TV. She normally goes to bed early (if she is not out late) and her interest in actually sitting to watch her favourite programs died for the last several months.

I had a brief pleasant chat, asked her if she would like a tea or coffee (as I was making one for myself), then I let her be (part of my lovingly dark project which I have been doing for 4 weeks).

I adjourned to my office for the rest of the night, I heard W adjourn to her room at around 10:45pm. I was tempted to sit with her but I believe that would have been the wrong approach to good DBing.

If nothing else the last few weeks have made me take control of my life and emotions, and I am feeling better about things, regardless of the final outcome.

Anyway, enough about me.