NM, you have a confused woman on your hands! Going in and trying to save her will not make her less confused. She has to figure it out on her own, and she will.
However, this will drive you nuts til you stop obsessing. Plain and simple. You CAN'T control her, trying to save her will be seen as controlling, don't even think about it. Go back and read the 2x4 I got from Amy, it applies to you in many ways too. Your W doesn't need saving. Listen to Jazz, work on you, let her come to you when she's ready.
Remember, at least you get to talk to her sometimes, I don't get to see or talk to my W at all - count your blessings, and learn some patience with me
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
