Wife gone...Is there hope

[Nomopo]

I'd say that went pretty well and you handled it well. Hidsight is 20/20, so keeping that in mind, a few comments:

the call was, as always, friendly & with out problem

Good, even if it is always like that

W... Ok......But I wanted to know what you think about it

Me....I don't think talking on the phone is the way go, I would prefer to talk face to face.

Nice. You are skilled my friend.

W...Ok..I will try to get to you one day next week

Wow, sounds urgent! Not!

W..But are you ok with it?
Me...This is your choice, I will not stand in your way of....

Well done.

W...I know but there is'nt any point in letting this go on is there?

I gotta tell you, that sounds like some doubt in my mind. Smallest, tiniest positive step, maybe.

Me...Like I have said this is your choice & I will not stand in your way...I would prefer to talk about this in person.

Here's the hindsight thing. I wish you had said something. I'd like to work on things. I think we can fix our problems. But i wil respect your choice, and I won't stand in your way if you want a divorce, but I don't want a divorce.

W...I know, but it has to be you that files for devorce...
Me...Why is that?
W...erm..because it was me that left.
Me...ok, lets talk about this when I see you ok?
W...Yeah, ok
Me...ok talk to you then...bye

Rest was fine, good actually. But I have no idea what she is talking about that you have to file. IF that is the case (and I really can't believe it is), you're in business my friend because you don't have to do it. I'd suggest you listen to what she says and don't be afraid to say "I'm going to have to think about this. Can we discuss it again later after I've had time to think about what you've told me." You could also slip in ONE more time, calmly, that you don't want a D, but if that is what she decides to do, you want stand in her way.

My guess is what she is getting at or wants is for you to agree to it so she doesn't feel so bad or look so bad, not that you actually have to file.

So, i'm a little confused here & thrown slightly off my plan of letting her do the dirty work, so to speak...I'm not sure why she would want me to be the one to file, I have to say I was expecting a letter from her lawyer saying she had done so or to that effect. Maybe it's me, but why does this crap seem to be so wierd.

It is weird, and maybe good. But really, no change in your plan at all. Right?

Of course i'm going to wait & see if she does come over to chat & I will look into info on how should go about fileing, just so I know what i'm talking about.

She probably will come over, but maybe not. And it may not be next week.

Do som research, but that is for your benefit. Keep it to yourself. You don't have to educate her.

Good luck friend,
Nomopo