Everything we learn all our little tricks to turn them off, to live without them to not think about them all the time, come back to haunt us when they want to be let in... even if it is just for a few moments or days.
And when they leave or retreat or whatever you want to call it...we are more hesitant to lower those defenses.
Gets to a point it is easier not to.
Nothing worth having is easy.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK