Yes, it makes sense. I'm reading "After the Affair" and I think (hope b/c I'm just getting into it) it's going to help me a lot. Maybe she is having issues w/ your SL because of the A, who knows. Is there a reason you aren't talking to her about it?

It kind of sounds like you want to leave, but are staying just for the childrens' sake?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10