Hi Anned, Just read this thread and wanted to say hi. I can see you are sad and hopefull and full of fear. Please do not give up hope for your marriage. If there was a real connection it can be found again. Only this is not on your timetable.. I have learned so much in the time DH and I separated. I feel that when we reconcile (which may be a long time still...) I am capable of creating a great marriage! Hang in there!