Focus on you to make the changes you recognize need to be addressed. Give her some space. Make the changes and hope she sees them.
Thats been the game plan all along Though I am sure its hard for all of us to always stick to it 100% of the time. I know I was an overbearing control freak who was a complete neat freak and flipped out at the kids and wife everytime they made a mess. I was selfish and not a good listener. All things I have been addressing with a counselor, reading books, and hours upon hours of soul searching.
I'm sorry if I offended anyone with my first post on this thread with the weight comments. I was fat my whole life and believe me I can totally sympathize with weight issues. I was so fat I was told I would be lucky to see my 30th birthday back when I was 22. I smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day, on top of weighing 335 pounds. Needless to say my blood pressure was off the charts and I was sick with pnemonia every 2-3 months. Why I went off the handle with the weight stuff is that is something my wife and I both beat together, it is something we really helped each other with. We were both morbidly obese at one point. I just couldnt see why she would consider dating someone who has the same problems that we just worked so hard to beat. Thats all, I'm almost 27 years old and was the fat kid in elementary school, I spent my entire known life being fat up until the last year or so. I weigh 187 pounds now, I havent weighed that much since I was 11 or 12 years old, I was a FAT kid.
I just felt like you guys have been taking me the wrong way because of my first post which I made while I was very angry (another issue I am working on addressing, but still not perfect). Again I apologize if I offended anyone.
Thats been the game plan all along 