Very supportive: "I finally let go Mon, and told him that I can't imagine the pain he must be experiencing to think that this is the only way to make it stop--it must be so hard for him. I won't stand in the way anymore."
Blaming, guilting, dismissive, telling him he is doing the wrong things and being a bad guy: "I have tried to give you hope that there are other options, asked you to trust me."
Not useful: "But"
Supportive: "I really do want you to be happy, and now I have to trust you, that you are making the best decisions for you. I won't stand in your way anymore."
I am sure your H would say this about you: "For me, my family, my children...and I have been fighting HER on HER needs."
