My H just started talking about moving back too. I don't doubt his sincerity, but am worried about teh best way/time to do this. NikkiB suggested that I set some boundaries. Figure out what I really need in order to feel good about him moving back. For example, I need some questions answered about OW; and a commitment to keep me informed about what's going on with her. I also need some agreement as to how we are going to work on R. Are we going to continue MC? Change some specific things? Agree to regular talks? Something else?
I'm not at a point where I want to make ultimatums about any of these, but I told him I want to talk about them before we make a decision about when he moves back. We haven't had that disucssion yet, but probably will in the next few days.
I know out sitchs are different, but hope the concept of setting boundaries is useful for you too.
Me 41 H 42 M 11 years no children Bomb: 10/2006 "I'm better without you than with you." Separated: 12/2006 H moved back: 6/2007
