Originally Posted By: forever21
The other thing is... how do you know that it "wouldn't be enough for him right now" or that "it is too late for him to be open to my love"?


I guess I feel I know because he isn't doesn't seem willing to try. He is filing for divorce. He isn't healed (he told me that this week) and I don't know what if any steps he's taking to heal or if he's just running from it by avoiding me and the marriage and addressing his personal issues and marriage issues. I saw him last night. He still seems so angry and in so much pain. He did say he is filing pretty much because even though he isn't sure and doesn't know, he doesn't want to keep stringing me along. I want my marriage to work but I don't know how we are moving at all towards that at this point because he has to heal and I don't know how that can or will happen.


Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius

Me: 32 XH: 33
M: 8 years
Affair discovered: 06/2006
rediscovered: 11/2006
Separation: 04/2007
Divorced: 10/09/07