No Ian...I'm not saying I will stand and wait. I'm saying I could if she wasn't kicking me away. I came to her 9 months ago and said - don't judge me yet, I'm changing. Well...although I'm not 100%...and maybe never will be because this is a lifelong journey...I think I'm good enough to be judged. But a good judge doesn't just look for the negatives. You trust the positives too. She can't seem to do that. If she came to me and asked me to wait because she needed to figure herslef out...I'd do it. I would. But she is not asking for that...she is telling me she doesn't want me here anymore. Ok.
Yes...I think you are right...she hasn't really changed, she hasn't focused on herself like she should have...and it is very possible that whatever R she gets into will follow the same path our's did...because she will judge and take and neve give. Sad...and I hope to God that doesn't happen - for her sake and my kids sake....
That said...I think she kind of knows this about herself and she may never get M'd again. She may have some guy that she just tries to keep on the back burner. Whatever. Her life to do with what she will.
