If i remember my first thread was in infedelity. Sorry dont lnow how to link. my last thread here under to sign or not to sign??Page 5 of 8 in the last 3 weeks?
Summary- M10yrs this year 3daugh 6,7 & 10 yrs discovered EA in 9/06 past coworker 2to 3yrs? PA last fall I kicked him out 2 to 3 months ago I signed his Dpapers at the same time & he willnot file
I admitted to him that I thought our number one promblem was our arguing and always pushing each others buttons. i realized I can only change things in me. I started making changes stoped reacting to his temper tantrums & let all slide right off. The domino effect was working really good & our arguments slowly diminished. I did not know other than his complaint of our arguing what else his complaints were. At one time he stopped staying out on the weekends and coming home late (i don't knowif htey had a fallen out) BUt then I found out she startrted by asking him to bring the girls on the weekends to diff. bday parties and so I started going dark and that back fired on me big time! I beleive h has self esteem issues do to his past R w/ his alcholic father who use to abuse him P& verbally evne thogu he was a tough/"bad" kid. H would not respect anyones authority and always (to this day) bad mouths people. He has a foul mouth and when angry does not care who he hurts. Once he was diagnosed w/ ?"imature personality disorder"? whle he was in the military and was put for a weekend in a military pyche ward due to depression b/c he had done soemthing and for punishment they suspended his pay. My H is hispanic and a true"macho" in every way. He still thinks I will "give it up" to this day. Last night he tried and I turned him down. This is getting easier to do.
He has "broken" down when he thought I was dating or "done" w/ him. He expreses remorse and admits he made this mess and he knows he must fix it but is sooooo confused.
The Ow is suppose to be moving to another place (apt) closer to us & he states he will not move in w/ her but does not know what he will do.
