I have to get back to your PS later, but wanted to add on a therapist that at a minimum found out if the C has had training specific to couples. Most haven't. Don't just go to a traditional, indiv. therapist who has worked with couples.
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link