Crushed but moving on

[Fender]

Scott I read your vent and saw a lot of my W in there. In the Air Force certain milestones are a big deal and family is expected to be there when you achieve one of these milestones.

One is promotion. The AF makes a big deal out of promotions and puts on a huge production each month for promotees. My last promotion was a big deal because I was being promoted to MSgt, that is a big deal because you are considered a Senior NCO. I had beg her to come to the ceremony.

Re-enlistment is another big deal. She didn't even attend my last re-enlistment ceremony. Really made me feel like crap.

I know office parties are not always attended by spouses however we always try to get families involved in them. Christmas parties, picnics, etc...she wouldn't even consider going.

She pretty much ignored my career for the better part of the last ten years. However on the other hand we all had to endure endless talk about her career.

I supported her in her career. I listened when she talked about her day or what happened at work. I encouraged her to go for promotions and celebrated with her when she got one.

So you see Scott I know what you are talking about. The good news is I never really needed anyone to pat me on the back. I can do a good job and feel rewarded without anyone saying good job.