He caved last night. Which was fine with me, but not with him. When it was over he started crying and kept saying it wasn't right. Right to me. I told him I was not a moron and I could decided what was right for me. I also told him that apparently he was the one with the problem, not me. He also said that I would have to let him go. I told him to shut up and stop ruining the moment and just let it go for now. That really upset me, I was fine before that, enjoying the moment. I started to cry. He just kept apologizing for every little thing. I told him to stop it. Why why why????
He was sweet all night and morning, spooning with me and rubbing me. I am just living in the moment, as the next one it will change.
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08
How do I get in contact with this lawyer pro bono thing when the time comes?
I dont know the geography of Levitown but I would start with the local bar association.. either it would be a county bar or a city bar association. Call them and ask if they have a Volunteer Legal Services Program or something similar.
Our local bar also has a Lawyer Referral Service... where you can get advice at a significantly reduced rate if you are unable to qualify for the pro bono program.
Sorry, what the heck is KWIM? And actually I think him caving is a win win for both of us. Seems he has more of a moral problem with it than I, I'll take it when I can get it as who the heck knows if I will ever get it again--from anyone for that matter!
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08
HSS I know you are hurting, but you are doing exactly the same thing for the past 2 years. STOP!!!! YOU need to change the cycle. Go back and check out your posts from almost 2 years ago, they are almost the exact same as they are now.
TIME FOR BOUNDARIES. TIME TO STOP THE HEAD GAMES. TIME TO MAKE SOME RULES.
You do not need this Man, you love him, you want him but stop telling yourself that you need him.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I have to agree with Brandnewday it's time to get a grip. I don't know the whole background but from what little I've read on this thread, you are being used BIGTIME. Oh and by the way, if there were a halter skimpy enough to make a WAW turn on the drop of a dime we would all be wearing them!
Your husband is a cake eater and a very screwed up one at that. Is there another woman involved? If there is you are taking one hell of a risk by continuing to sleep with him. Sleeping with him will not make him change his mind, but will leave you feeling used and abused.
The only thing that will give you your self respect back and at the sametime MAY get him to rethink his choices is for you to show him that your not the shrinking violet that he been used to dealing with. You are worth so much more!
When people come on here and tell you things you don't want to hear it's because they see you for what you truly are, not for the doormat your husband is making you out to be. Listen to them. Nothing, not even divorce, is worse then what you are living through now.
I have to agree with Brandnewday it's time to get a grip. I don't know the whole background but from what little I've read on this thread, you are being used BIGTIME. Oh and by the way, if there were a halter skimpy enough to make a WAW turn on the drop of a dime we would all be wearing them!
Your husband is a cake eater and a very screwed up one at that. Is there another woman involved? If there is you are taking one hell of a risk by continuing to sleep with him. Sleeping with him will not make him change his mind, but will leave you feeling used and abused.
The only thing that will give you your self respect back and at the sametime MAY get him to rethink his choices is for you to show him that your not the shrinking violet that he been used to dealing with. You are worth so much more!
When people come on here and tell you things you don't want to hear it's because they see you for what you truly are, not for the doormat your husband is making you out to be. Listen to them. Nothing, not even divorce, is worse then what you are living through now.
I have to agree with Brandnewday it's time to get a grip. I don't know the whole background but from what little I've read on this thread, you are being used BIGTIME. Oh and by the way, if there were a halter skimpy enough to make a WAW turn on the drop of a dime we would all be wearing them!
Your husband is a cake eater and a very screwed up one at that. Is there another woman involved? If there is you are taking one hell of a risk by continuing to sleep with him. Sleeping with him will not make him change his mind, but will leave you feeling used and abused.
The only thing that will give you your self respect back and at the sametime MAY get him to rethink his choices is for you to show him that your not the shrinking violet that he been used to dealing with. You are worth so much more!
When people come on here and tell you things you don't want to hear it's because they see you for what you truly are, not for the doormat your husband is making you out to be. Listen to them. Nothing, not even divorce, is worse then what you are living through now.
Thanks guys. Seems he has more of a problem with sleeping together than I do. I figure it may be the last I get. I don't feel used or abused, but thanks for caring.
No, there is no other woman. When I questioned him about a phone # on his cell I didn't recognize he said that he was wondering when I would ask-it was a friend of my cousin that was female. He had told me of her before. He asked me why I didn't just have him tailed. I said it wouldn't matter.
Maybe I don't NEED him, but I WANT him.
What do you guys mean about breaking the cycle? I have done many things but none of them ever worked for good.
Found some of his things missing, and when I questioned it this morning he said he was moving stuff to his father's again. Sigh.....
He also was grumpy last night and said that he had a "scheduling conflict" this week. When I asked what he told me he was cranky and it didn't involve me so he wouldn't clarify. That kinda worries me. I am only curious when things are kept from me, I keep telling him that. The more secretive he is the more I question. I told him from the beginning that I wanted honesty but apparently I am told that I can't handle the truth. What did I do to screw things up so bad for my kids?????
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08
