hey hope4 and hopeless

I think for lack of a better word "pride" keeps our S from admitting they are not happy now. It's like they don't want to say "what was I thinking".
I know "pride" is not the right word because if they had that in the fisrt place WE would not be in this sitch. But do you know what I mean?

Husband


And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know