you know how you deal with the change-back pressure. You sit at your computer, and you write on these boards. Because we have dug big holes where our marriages used to be. And we can't just climb out in one step and declare our love. It takes a long time, and steady work. So keep up the twilighting and wait for him to get that feeling that he misses you. It is as Carrie says in Sex and the City, "that ever-seductive fear of commitment dance". It's all in the chase. Does he want you to chase him, or does he want to be the one to chase you? It is the games that keeps life fun.
