To me, sleeping with a guy because he's cute indicates discernment, and thus disqualifies the woman who does it as a slut. ;\)
LOL- I'm not really all that concerned. It's hard to be slutty when you are too nice to "pressure" men into having sex with you. I read the book "Dating Confidential" and according to it, I am mostly doing or at least attempting all the right things to make myself attractive to men (like showing cleavage, letting them open doors etc.) but I'm not doing that much to signal sexual interest. For instance, I never touch my dates and (hard to believe, I know) I don't verbally flirt in a sexual manner in person (although I do in a social manner) and I actually ignore quite a bit of innuendo.
I think I'm still kind of messed up from my marital sich if this book is an accurate portrayal of what other women might do on a date. For instance, she writes as though putting your hand on your date's leg while he's driving would be normal flirtatious behavior. I wouldn't do that and the reason I wouldn't do that would be because I would feel like I was being kind of "rude" to assume that my date would appreciate that sort of thing. I am subconsciously stuck in this mindset that my HD is obvious and overwhelming so doing anything like that would be kind of obnoxious and pushy.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
