Why is this like this?

[Nomopo]

Nomo.......your in depth analysis does help me so much. I appreciate it. I have to admit that sometimes I worry that you spend so much time helping me and others that you are neglecting yourself and your own situation. Of all the people on here, you are the one that I would like to someday have a phone conversation with.

It's a selfish thing really. It makes me feel good, I expect increased visits to my thread in return, and it helps me to learn by following and analyzing other sitchs and offering my thoughts. I highly encourage it, but it is addictive and a real dark hole for time. Because of the lessons I learn, I don't feel like it is time away from my sitch, but rather time spent learning and growing myself. And I'd be happy to talk to you (or anyone else for that matter) by phone any time you want. I have spoken with a few others on this Board already. You can always email me at [e-mail], and we can exchange phone numbers.

I also feel guilty that I do not offer more "advice" to other people, and that is probably a self esteem thing, but I feel I am in a place where I dont have alot to offer.

You are selling yourself short. You have good advice to offer, and have done so. If it makes you feel better, start with the newbies. Sadly, there seem to be two or three a day.

Was thinking last night, I suppose this is not very detaching, but I know for fact that my WAW will be attending a wedding this coming Saturday. Hmmmmmm......perhaps a few things said during the service will at least make her think??? I know, I know worry about myself. But I suppose it would not hurt to throw a prayer that way.

Offer the prayer, but don't hold your breath. She is not there yet I suspect. NDDT, do you feel like you can be/will be happy in your life regardless of what happens with your M? or stated another way, are you getting to that point more and more each day? If so, you are detaching IMO. Wanting your W/R/M back doesn't mean you're not detached (detaching is not the same as not caring).

I got up 2 hours ago and pretty much spent my time reading and responding to posts here. It is good to see everyones take on things and get responses to what I write, but other than that I have not accomplished a thing so far today.

I agree with the responses to this. But, did you learn something? Are you better able to handle something? If so, it wasn't a waste. Learning to DB to the best of my ability has been my number 1 priority in life for the past few weeks. I feel like I've just about got my hands around it to the point and can relax more and just apply. Was it worth all the time it took me to get here. Yep. Ifeel good about what I am doing, and will be at peace no matter the result.

But it's a personal decision. Go with your gut!

Latr,
Nomopo