Firstly, you can still hold the "moral" cards. Spending time with female friends doesn't mean anything. I have female friends that will never eventuate into anything more than friends.
And as far as dating, I have started to "date", but it doesn't mean that I will be getting into a relationship or getting into a "romp" with any of them. It is nice to get that confidence back and it makes me feel good to get out with someone other than my workmates and male friends.
Regarding your letter to your W, I don't know if I would do it. I think you handled yourself well, and the emotions that are going through your W at the moment are for her to deal with (moods). Just stay lovingly detached, and give her the space to deal with these moods.
Next time she brings it up, just let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk about anything, and then leave it at that. If she wants to, she will talk to you. Remember, slowly slowly catch the monkey.................
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
