Thanks for your comments. My husband waslike yours and didnt feel wanted anymore and has responded well to knowing that he was loved by me. I also feel that compared to most of the other sitchs I read about I have 'had it easy'. However it still isnt easy is it. I know i need to 'forgive' the oW and that will end uo being a present to me but i cant see a way to do that. She used my husband and she abused me and my children. Why are we all paying the price whilst she has just breezed on to pastures new? I want to get rid of these feelings that make me feel small and petty but I just dont know how to. I know its better to keep ones head up and act like an adult but sometimes I dont want to - I want to tell her what I think of her but friends tell me that she will think shes won if I do that as she can see that I am still hurting. Its not about winning / losing though is it? In an email to my husband she said that she thought he should apologise to her husband for them having had an affair - well she's never apologised to me!! Double standards or what? And thats when she instigated the whole sorry mess and abandoned her kids etc. Oh I must stop ranting on - sorry.
Thnx for your helpfull comments
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
