I don't think I've ever had discussions about my SL with my close friends -- definitely not the types of things discussed on this board. Passing comments might be made here and there, but no discussions about HD/LD, frequency, etc.
I did make a couple of HD cyber girlfriends who became IRL friends, but I mostly just listened to them talk about sex and picked up a few ideas. They were part of the reason I started questioning my LD state. One of them is VERY HD and I admired her for being so comfortable with her sexuality and so open about it. Getting to know her helped me see that I was missing out. They already knew I was LD before they met me, because they were on another of cac's boards.
Same thing with the playgroup moms. We never got into discussions about sex, although there were a couple of women who were open about their lack of interest in sex during their pregnancies. One woman's H had an affair during her pg a couple of years ago. She actually commented that in a way she was kind of glad that her husband had the A then because it meant that she was off the hook for sex. She said it so casually. I remember just looking at her in shock. I said nothing. I think the others were a little surprised too. She made this comment after she and her H had reconciled and gone to some MC sessions.
ETA: Surprisingly, my two cyberfriends were posters on the board that cac mentions above. HD women were rare on that board.
She said it so casually. I remember just looking at her in shock. I said nothing. I think the others were a little surprised too. She made this comment after she and her H had reconciled and gone to some MC sessions.
